Tips for Explaining Donor Conception to Your Children

If you have donor conceived children, at some point, you will want to tell them about their origins. Being up front and honest is essential, and the conversations should be treated with sensitivity and empathy. As parents, you will naturally want to approach this topic in an honest way that is both age appropriate and supportive. Here are some tips that will help you do just that:

Start When They Are Young

The earlier you start bringing donor conception up to your children, the better. In fact, you should take advantage of your children’s your children’s natural accepting and curious natures and introduce this to them as young as you feel comfortable bringing it up.

For example, you can say something like, “Mommy and Daddy needed help from a special donor to bring you into our lives, and we are so grateful!” The key is to make sure that the conversation is age appropriate and remember that they are never too young. The younger they are, the simpler you can phrase it.

Use Outside Resources If Needed

Because donor conception is so common, there are many resources available, many geared towards small children, that can help you explain the concepts to them. These resources were carefully curated to explain donor conception in a loving and understanding way.

Using outside help can help them understand their unique story in a way that is geared for children. Just make sure that the resource you use is still age appropriate. Get advice on resources to use from the donor clinic, a professional third-party, such as a counselor, who specializes in donor conception, and other families.

Create an Honest Dialog

Being honest about your children’s origins helps you build strong relationships with them. Keep the dialog as honest and simple as possible. It is much better for your child to hear the simple truth rather than an elaborate story.

Your best bet is to explain all the facts in a simple and straightforward way. Answer any questions they may have with honesty and love. This honesty and openness will help you child feel comfortable and will go a long way to helping you build strong relationships with them. When you normalize the truth in an honest way, your children will feel loved and valued.

Seek Outside Support

Even with this advice, you may still feel unsure as to how to proceed with your child. If this is the case, or even if you just want some outside support, it can be helpful to enlist the help of a professional, such as a counselor or therapist.

It is a good idea to start a relationship with one early in the process. That way, you can have someone to come to for advice and help if you encounter challenges through the process. Consider finding someone who specialize in donor conception and the family dynamics that go along with it.

When it comes to donor conception, it is important to be upfront and honest with your children. These tips will help!